First and foremost, good sex is about being present.
It’s important not to judge one’s erotic self or the erotic experience, but rather to practice radical self-acceptance.
During sex, one’s mind may go into “spectatoring” mode, being goal-directed or self-conscious. The key is to simply notice it without judging
Dr. Nan
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Ask Dr. Nan: What if having sex hurts?
Mar 30, 2021
Why talking about sexual pain disorders is key to promoting awareness and fighting the stigma and shame In my book Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled life I explore how the ability to...
The Dark Side of Sexuality: What cults like NXIVM can teach us about ourselves
Oct 16, 2020
Watch #SeducedSTARZ: Inside The NXIVM Cult
How to Harness the Healing Power of Pleasure
Sep 7, 2020
Pleasure is not a luxury
Good Sex Tool: Touch Plus Imagery
Aug 19, 2020
Remember, neurons that fire together wire together. We can turn up the volume on our genital sensations if we lay down and strengthen those pathways over and over. This exercise offers you a way to increase your ability to access sensations in your genitals, which...
What To Do To Have A Happier Relationship
Jul 22, 2020
Depressed, anxious, or stressed out? How's the state of your relationship? Want to have a happier relationship? Here’s how to work through challenges and improve overall wellbeing. As a sex therapist, certified relationship expert, and neuroscientist, I can tell you...