Much of our understanding of what enables us to experience pleasure counterintuitively comes from the more abundant research into pain.
When we investigate the brain correlates of pleasure more closely, we discover that the pathways for pleasure and pain are closely intertwined.
When we avoid pain, we are also learning to avoid pleasure. We shut down emotionally as well as physically.
Before we discuss how to talk about sex with your partner, let’s highlight why it is so critically important. As a sex therapist and researcher, I can easily say that the number one reason people end up seeking sex therapy is not the loss of desire, differences in...
Here’s what you (and your partner) need to know about the core emotions
In the few months since the supreme court overturned Roe v. Wade, we have been dealing with waves of distress emanating from all directions. In addition to my upset (which is considerable, motivating me to pen this post as an attempt to actively cope), my clients,...
First and foremost, good sex is about being present.
It’s important not to judge one’s erotic self or the erotic experience, but rather to practice radical self-acceptance.
During sex, one’s mind may go into “spectatoring” mode, being goal-directed or self-conscious. The key is to simply notice it without judging
Why talking about sexual pain disorders is key to promoting awareness and fighting the stigma and shame In my book Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled life I explore how the ability to...