First and foremost, good sex is about being present.
It’s important not to judge one’s erotic self or the erotic experience, but rather to practice radical self-acceptance.
During sex, one’s mind may go into βspectatoringβ mode, being goal-directed or self-conscious. The key is to simply notice it without judging
Dr. Nan
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What is Female Ejaculation, and Why It’s Good For You
Feb 24, 2020
Buckle up, folks, weβre about to dive into a controversial sex topic: how to squirt during sex. βSquirting,β more accurately known as female ejaculation (and sometimes called βshejaculateβ by the internet), remains one of the more highly debated and controversial...
Yes Masturbation is Healthy | How to Use A Vibrator [VIDEO]
Feb 17, 2020
How to use a vibrator is one of the questions I get most oftenβand most bashfullyβin my work as a sex therapist. I began my career as a psychotherapist, becoming a sex therapist and certified relationship expert when I realized that so many of my clients came to me...
Why Canβt I Orgasm? A Neuroscientist Explains
Feb 10, 2020
In my practice as a certified sex therapist and in my work as a neuroscientist studying pleasure, thereβs one question I hear a lot: Why canβt I orgasm? 6 Possible Reasons You Aren't Able to Orgasm Having a regular stream of orgasms isnβt just about having a...
This Week in Sex (video)
Feb 3, 2020
Dr. Nan Wise talks about what is being discussed in the sex world this week and how we need to prevent slut-shaming and how we need to talk more about sex in parenthood. Nan reminds viewers that her book launch for her highly anticipate book, Why Good Sex Matters (out...
Donating Orgasms to Science
Jan 31, 2014
As I drive the five miles from my house in suburban New Jersey to Rutgers University Brain Imaging Center, I take a mental inventory of my data. So far, I have collected 13 self-stimulation orgasms but only 6 orgasms brought about through partner stimulation. The goal...